Or, would you want her to actually be looking forward to speaking with you. Do you want her to feel a little bit excited, anxious, and yet forward looking and happy... all at the same time?
Well guess what... it only takes a tiny bit of thought and effort before you
call her in order to get her to feel that way about returning your call.
But before we go into that, let's figure out what the problem is.
Exercise #1: Write down the message you usually leave a girl on her answering machine. Actually get out a pen and write down what you say.
Exercise #2: Call your own answering machine, pretend it's a girl's machine, and leave a message just like you would if it was a girl you just met, and you wanted her to call you back.
Both of these exercises are very valuable for discovering just how DAMN BORING
your messages probably are. But it gives you a place to start, and besides...
you can't change something and make it better until it exists. By writing it
down, and recording yourself... you're bringing it out in the open, so you can
look at it objectively.
After you do both of these exercises, listen to your message and read your writing...
but pretend you are a beautiful girl who just got 10 other messages from guys
who you. Now... would YOU call you back?
Also, do you know what the number one thing that will make a girl NOT want
to call you is? It's needing her to call you. Sounds simple, doesn't it?
Have you ever been around someone who was like an emotional vampire? Everything
they did or said exuded neediness, and you just didn't want to be around them.
Well the same is true for women and dating.
If the tone of your answering machine message suggests that you REALLY want her to return your call, she probably won't. It's a quirky little fact, but I'm sure you've experienced this in your life. The easiest way to make someone want to give something to you is to really NOT need it.