Well, as you can imagine, nobody would feel good about themselves when they ask those kind of questions. But you see... asking yourself a question causes your mind to give you an answer to that question, and ONLY that question... nothing else.
Let me explain.

If you ask yourself, "Why can't I lose weight?", your mind will literally give you the answer to THAT question only. Your mind will say things like:
• Because you can't stop eating fatass!
• Well, because you don't like dieting, and you're a loser.
• Because you hate exercising and you're damn lazy.

Hey, if you were trying to lose weight, and your mind was saying those kinds of things to you, you wouldn't want to stick to it. But what if you changed the question you asked yourself? What would be a better question to ask yourself instead of "Why can't I lose weight"?

Here's some ideas. Ask yourself these questions, and notice how your mind will start to give you better answers.
• What small changes can I make to my diet that are easy to stick with, and would cause me to lose around 1 pound per week?
• Instead of going to the gym, which I don't like... what sport or activity can I do that is fun, exciting, and social... so I can meet and talk to people while I'm there?
• Who can I go to for help in slightly changing my diet, so I can find something that works for me?

Do you see how these questions change your focus, and cause you to think about positive solutions... rather than the problem? Okay great, so let's apply this to women and dating.