The 3 Month Trap
I know you've experienced it.
You meet a great girl, and you've been dating her for a couple months now.
Things are FANTASTIC! You two are getting along so well, and you're starting
to have some serious thoughts about being in a committed relationship with her.
Then, you cease all your dating efforts with other women, and "put all
your eggs in one basket".
Suddenly, after about the 3 month mark, things have changed. That wonderful woman you once knew has been kidnapped by aliens, and replaced by some rude, angry, nasty, irritable BEAST!
So what's the deal? Why does this seem to happen to all of us? Two words explain it all... ego boundaries.
You see, when you're in the initial stage of a relationship, there's this thing
that happens where you are more accepting and open when it comes to those "little
things" that used to annoy you.. Basically, it's a lowering of your ego
boundaries for a short period while you are in the courting stage of a relationship.
Those little things that would drive you crazy if anyone else were to do them....
you think they're "cute" when she does them... until she does it for
the 34th #@*!&! time.
So how do you deal with the inevitable reclaiming of your boundaries? The best
way is to form agreements with her early in the relationship.
You two need to agree on some things like:
Punctuality (it's a bigger issue than you might think... and it gets bigger as time goes by).